Relationships & Dating: Real Advice for Real People
Whether you’re scrolling through Instagram, meeting someone at a club, or just trying to keep the spark alive at home, the world of relationships can feel like a maze. The good news? You don’t need a PhD to figure it out. Below you’ll find straight‑forward tips that work, plus a quick guide to the six love styles that shape how we give and receive affection.
What’s Your Love Style?
Love styles are the patterns we fall back on when we’re in a relationship. Think of them as emotional personalities. The most common ones are:
- Eros – passionate and romantic, loves the thrill of a strong connection.
- Ludus – playful, enjoys the game of flirting and keeping things light.
- Storge – builds love on friendship, values trust and long‑term stability.
- Pragma – practical, looks for compatibility and shared goals.
- Mania – intense, can become obsessive and needs constant reassurance.
- Agape – selfless, puts the partner’s needs first and seeks unconditional love.
Knowing your own style helps you understand why you act a certain way, and spotting your partner’s style can prevent misunderstandings. For example, an Eros partner might crave grand gestures, while a Pragma partner prefers clear plans and financial talks.
Practical Dating Tips
Now that you have a sense of love styles, let’s get into everyday actions you can take:
- Ask, don’t assume. If you’re not sure what your partner needs, just ask. A simple “What makes you feel loved?” goes a long way.
- Keep communication short and sweet. Texts don’t have to be novels. A quick “Thinking of you” can brighten a day without overwhelming anyone.
- Set boundaries early. Whether it’s how often you text or how much you share on social media, clear limits keep both sides comfortable.
- Plan low‑key dates. Not every night needs to be a fancy dinner. A walk in the park or a coffee shop chat can be just as meaningful.
- Show appreciation daily. Small gestures—like making their favorite tea or remembering a detail from a conversation—build trust over time.
These actions fit any love style. An Eros lover will enjoy the romance, a Ludus type will appreciate the playfulness, and a Storge partner will feel the friendship deepening.
Finally, remember that relationships aren’t static. Your love style can shift as you grow, and that’s okay. Keep checking in with yourself and your partner, and adjust your approach as needed. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s making the connection feel right for both of you.
Ready to try something new? Pick one tip from the list, test it this week, and notice how your partner reacts. Small changes add up, and before you know it, you’ll have a stronger, happier relationship without the drama.
What is your “love style”?
In my recent blog post, I explored the concept of "love styles," which are unique ways individuals express and receive love. Love styles can be shaped by various factors including upbringing, past relationships, and personal beliefs. I discussed the six primary love styles: Eros (romantic, passionate love), Ludus (playful love), Storge (friendship love), Pragma (practical love), Mania (obsessive love), and Agape (selfless love). I delved into how understanding our own love style can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. I also emphasized the importance of understanding our partner's love style to better meet their emotional needs.